How Separation Anxiety Really Starts — A Trainer’s Perspective on the Moments Dogs Remember
How Separation Anxiety Really Starts — A Trainer’s Perspective on the Moments Dogs Remember
A Note Before We Begin
Every once in a while, I come across an article written by another trainer that does such a good job explaining a concept that it’s worth slowing down and really paying attention. This is one of those cases.
The article shared below was written by a trainer I respect deeply and someone who is widely recognized as a leader in the field of separation anxiety. Her work consistently does what good education should do — it helps owners see what dogs experience, not just label the behavior.
The Article I’m Referring To
Beyond the Scare — by Malena DeMartini
What follows below is my perspective on why this article matters and how I see the same patterns show up in real homes with real dogs.
Updated for Kansas City Dog Owners
Separation anxiety is one of the most misunderstood behavior issues I see working with families in and around Kansas City. It’s rarely about a dog being “too attached” or “spoiled.” More often, it starts with a single moment — a small, easily missed experience — that creates a powerful emotional association for the dog.
Why This Article Matters — And What It Shows Us About Separation Anxiety
Separation anxiety doesn’t usually come out of nowhere. In many cases, it develops when a dog experiences stress while alone and forms an association that being separated predicts something unpleasant or frightening.
Why Dogs Hold Onto These Memories
Dogs live in the moment, but they learn through emotional memory. This is not stubbornness or disobedience. It’s fear.
Prevention Starts With Awareness
Thoughtful management, predictable routines, and teaching dogs how to be alone can make all the difference.
How We Help Dogs With Separation Anxiety
At K.I.S.S. Dog Training, we help dogs and families navigate anxiety-related behaviors.
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